How To Turn Staying At Home Into A Positive Experience For Your Kids

Most of us haven’t been at home for as long as the coronavirus pandemic has made us experience. As social beings, this results in anxiety and stress. You may not notice it, but your kids are also negatively affected by the quarantine. But that doesn’t have to be the case. You can turn things around and make stay-at-home a positive experience for your kids with these tips!

Model Positivity

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Your kids feel it when you worry. So, your anxiousness can double their anxiety and make the situation worse for them. The first step you can take to turn staying at home a positive experience for your kids is to model positivity. 

Bryan Robinson, Ph. D. shares, “Optimism is some of the best medicines to thrive during COVID-19 quarantine, no matter how dire the circumstances. You don’t possess some magical joy juice. And you don’t have to become a smiley-face romantic with your head in the sand or look through rose-colored glasses.” Don’t let your children mimic your worry; show them something positive amid this uncertainty, like getting to spend more time with you and having fun while at home.

Practice Gratitude

While you’re modeling positivity, practice gratitude with them, look for something to be thankful for. You and your kids may talk about these small things over food, or through post-it notes on your refrigerator door. Look for a fun way to introduce gratitude in your daily routine and notice how fast it will change your home’s mood.

Bond With Them

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Before this pandemic happened, you probably were the hardworking parent who does everything for their family. However, your kids, especially younger ones, may not see it that way because they get to spend lesser time with you because of your work. This fact is further proven by reports that show that some kids are happier these days. Make their happiness extra special by doing relaxing activities together. Like at-home-spa, maybe?

Learn Something New

Now that you’re spending more time with your children, why not learn something together? You and your kids may start learning a second or third language; there are many free language apps online. Or why not try baking together? Find something that you and your child can enjoy and have a new skill to show off when you meet with friends again.

Read Books

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Besides bonding and learning a new skill, find some time to read books with your kids too. School may have stopped, but learning continues. You may ask their previous reading teachers what they can recommend, or you and your kid can find books about topics that you like. Do not limit what they can read to books that you think are good for them; let them read comic books. Although, we still suggest some parental control over content that may be too mature for your kids.

Dedicate An Art Time

Modeling positivity and practicing gratitude with your children helps them alleviate their worries. But they may still feel anxious, especially with how much negative news there is online and on television. To help them rid of this anxiety and stress, you can do art with them!

There are more benefits to doing art with your kids than developing their inner Picasso. It can be a great stress reliever. Furthermore, art also affect your young one’s fine motor skills, cognition, mathematical abilities, and language skills! Pinterest is an excellent place to look for craft ideas and DIY projects to try with your children.

Keep Them Social

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This coronavirus pandemic has us staying at home, physically distancing from our friends, and loved ones. As much as it puts a toll on you, it does so too for your kids. So, to keep the quarantine from being a bad experience for your kids, help them connect with their friends now and then. If they’re too young to use social media, use your own account to contact their buddies. The practice of physical distancing does not need to affect your child’s social life, right?

Exercise

Lastly, find time to exercise together! This pandemic has made all of us cooped at home, affecting our physical health. So, stay healthy and reduce anxiety by doing physical activities. YouTube has tons of exercise videos that you and your kids can follow. Find the best physical activity for you and your children and have fun while staying healthy.

This quarantine has made a massive impact on our lives, pulling us from our regular routines. But it must not only affect us negatively. Turn things around and stay positive with your children while at home!

Keeping Your Children Calm While Under Quarantine

The COVID-19 pandemic is sweeping over the world, and no one is unaffected. As adults, we can get a good grasp of what’s happening through reliable sources, but our children rely on us for information. They might ask us why they can’t go out to meet their friends, or why they can’t go out to play. As responsible parents, we comply with the guidelines of staying home and physically distancing ourselves from others to maintain our physical health. However, we also have to watch our mental health and the mental health of our children. The pandemic makes us all anxious, our children included.

Be Calm And Reassuring

Your child won’t be able to keep calm if you aren’t either! Even if you feel fear or panic at the thought of the coronavirus, this is one thing that your child doesn’t need to see. It would help your child if you honestly showed them how you feel, but before talking to them, make sure you’re able to manage your anxiety first. Use a calm voice when speaking to them. As a parent, you have to be a reassuring, comforting presence.

Therefore, make sure that you can reassure your child. All the preventative measures in the world can be in place, but if your child doesn’t feel comforted by you, their parent, they might still worry excessively. Let them know that the stress they’re feeling is normal, but also manageable.

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Be Honest

Your child will, of course, have questions. Your goal now is to make sure that the thoughts they have and the things that they imagine aren’t unrealistic monsters. What you need to do is to tell them just enough information to keep them informed, without scaring them. The best way to keep our children informed is by explaining the coronavirus in ways that they understand and can control. Explain the ways the coronavirus spreads and its effects. It would also help to show that organizations all over the world are doing the best they can to beat the coronavirus. This way, even though they know there’s a threat, they also understand that they can control it and that others are working to manage it as well.

Children don’t like being left in the dark – not knowing what’s happening magnifies any fear they’re already facing. Uncertainty will cause far more anxiety than a known, visible, and controllable problem. However, you must be able to gauge just how much information your child can process. Dumping a large amount of information on them may overwhelm them and only stress them out further. Instead of presenting all the information you have, it may be easier to allow your child to lead the conversation by only answering their questions. If you come across a question you can’t explain, rather than tell them that you don’t know, it will be better to work with them to find the answer. Of course, ensure that you guide your child as you research!

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Be Open

Establish a dialogue as well. Your child may have heard about the coronavirus from other sources, some of which might not be reliable. Let them share what they know with you so that you can address misinformation. You will also want to direct them to reliable news sources and sites and show them how they can identify them.

Now, you’ll want to show that not only is it worldwide organizations that can combat the coronavirus, but your child and your family as well. Since you explained how the coronavirus spreads, you can show how to prevent that spread at home. To make it easier for your child, create a schedule or routine that your family can follow. This method keeps your day structured. It doesn’t have to be extremely rigid.

Finally, keep talking! You’ve had one talk about the coronavirus, but your child might continue receiving information from elsewhere. Make sure that they know that you’ll update them – and ensure that you do update them about what’s happening in the world. They might return to you with new problems, or, as some parents know, repeats of old ones. Answer them calmly and reassuringly still – even if the questions feel like they’re getting old.

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In short, establish control over the situation and let your child feel like they too can control the threat themselves. Don’t keep them out of the loop where their imagination can prey on them. Keep the knowledge flowing both ways.

Parents Should Know What Their Words Mean To Their Children

Often, parents think their kids cannot understand a lengthy explanation, that’s why they settle on two-word answers. They are sometimes unaware that it is how they respond that children learn about how this world works. Their brain can take in more than we realize, and if we do not make an effort to elaborate a simple NO, they will end up concluding on their own. Continue reading “Parents Should Know What Their Words Mean To Their Children”

Why You Should And Should Not Buy Your Children A Cell Phone

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Cell phones are essential nowadays. Everyone has it, even children, and although it is a trend, some parents think twice about getting his or her children a cell phone. They believe that their kids will be left out in school if they are the only ones who do not have it. They are pressured to give in to the standards of the society, and the children likewise, feel the need to follow the trend and fit in. Continue reading “Why You Should And Should Not Buy Your Children A Cell Phone”

Why You Should Never Let Your Kids Watch Traumatic Videos On The Internet

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The internet is full of different kinds of information which some are too tragic or violent to watch. Though it is appropriate to educate the children about the reality of this world, sometimes, there are things they do not need to see literally. For instance, there is a petition circling on Facebook about saving the dogs in China from a brutal end since the Chinese Dog Eating Festival is forthcoming.

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Fathers And Mothers: Your Children Need You Both 

Home is where children first learn between right from wrong. It is where they prepare to be responsible adults, and it is vital that both parents agree on how they discipline their children. Both mom and dad should talk over the house rules and other issues concerning the wellbeing of their kids. 

 

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How Online Counseling Is Relevant To The Youth Today

The generation today may not have an idea of how the world was yesterday. Before, the community will most likely be all there is to know in a lifetime. There isn’t much help but the one by the pastry shop. Whenever the kids are sick, they’ll only have to call one person who probably knows the medical history of all the families in town.

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Teaching My Kids Through Cartoons

 

I’m just a stay at home mom who loves to bond with her kids once a week for a “movie night.” I know for a fact that motherhood is tough and taking care of three kids, one of them was a toddler, is next to difficult. But I’ve noticed that spending two hours with them, lounged around the living room while watching a movie, had some positive effects. I think that’s because I explained to them the moral of the stories we watched and they seemed to apply it in real life.

 

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We Watched Elsa And Anna of Frozen

 

Elsa and Anna are sisters who lost their parents at a young age. They used to play together when they were younger, but Elsa pushed Anna away for many years because of fear. You see, Elsa had a gift – she can create snow and ice. One time, while playing, she hit Anna on the head which almost cost her life.

 

They lived in the same castle and yet, they were apart for years. When it was time for Elsa to rule their kingdom, Elsa released her power which made people afraid of her. Again, she pushed everyone away especially her sister Anna who then led to her almost demise with an ambitious prince. When Elsa was in danger, Anna saved her, and the latter shifted to ice.

 

Of course, it had a happy ending, and Elsa learned that she had to spread love instead of fear. She ruled their kingdom with her sister, Anna, by her side.

 

 

The Moral Lesson of Frozen

 

When it comes to family, love rules. Never shut them out from your life – your parents, siblings and other family members, because in the end, when you have nobody by your side, your family will always be there. Remember, “Love is the root of what brings each and every one of us to therapy—the need to understand love, the hunger and desperation to find love and experience love, the desire to love and the desire to be loved.” Stacy Donn Cristo, LMHC said.

 

One day, I saw the change. My firstborn was irritated of her younger sister and would lock the door while she played inside their room. I always had to tell her to open it so the second-born can go inside, but I didn’t have to do it anymore. She said to her younger sister – If I am Elsa, you are Anna. I am the Queen, and you are the Princess. But you are little and annoying. Still, I love you, and mom said I have to take care of you.

 

We Watched Ariel of The Little Mermaid

 

I know this movie is old, but it is one of the most beautiful cartoon movies of all time, for me. The lesson imparted in the film is also very rich.

 

Ariel is a mermaid, and she fell in love with a human Prince named Erik. Her father disapproves of her going to land because the King thinks that humans are savages. So, she went out of her way and was stubborn enough to meet the sea witch, Ursula. The witch gave her a potion wherein Ariel can walk, but can’t use her angelic voice. (Ariel sings very well.)

 

After that, she met Erik, and it was going well until Ursula had to intervene with their budding romance. The witch hypnotized Erik, and they almost got married. But Ariel went to the rescue and Erik realized that he loved Ariel all along. They battled with Ursula, and as usual, love wins over evil. They got married, and as said many times – they lived happily ever after.

 

Moral Lesson Of The Little Mermaid

 

Be cautious around strangers. They will act as your friend, but in truth, you just don’t know what they want from you. Some can end up harming you. (Talk about Ursula.) Stick to the ones you know better. “You know the ones—these are the people you know you can always call, text, or email when you need to feel a connection.” David Klow, a licensed therapist said.

 

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Follow your parents because they always want the best for you. And parents, don’t confine your children if you don’t want them to rebel. There must be a balance of things. Open communication is also essential. (The King was too proud to listen to Ariel and consider what she wanted in life.)

 

One time, I saw my second-born telling our youngest – Stay with me, Ally. Don’t go with other people especially since you don’t know them. Remember what Ursula did to Ariel? Ally replied with – Oh yes. She took away her voice! I don’t want strangers to rob my voice, Andy!

 

It was so cute!

 

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We also watched The Lion King, Brave, Finding Nemo, Finding Dory, The Good Dinosaur and many more. I’m not a perfect mother, but I try my best to teach my kids about life and how to be a good human being. Others say I’m foolish for teaching my kids through cartoons and I don’t care what they think. As long as my kids are learning something, and that they are good people, I think I’m doing what I’m supposed to do. Francyne Zeltser, Psy.D. said, “what’s more important than the quantity of time you spend with your kids is the quality of the time you do have together.” And that’s all that matters.