Frequently Asked Questions About Separation Anxiety


In my 25 years of existence, I have been asked about my greatest fear a couple of times already. Honestly, I am so fed up with the question that I now have a script on that one. At first, it was all like, “that’s so lame, and I don’t want to answer it” thing. But now, I always feel like I have to tell the world about this fear and anxiety that lingers in me.

Part of my greatest fear is to be alone. I don’t want to even slightly think that I will have to deal with things in life all by myself. I know I would not make it emotionally and mentally. That ideology sticks with me for a long time now, even though I am quite aware that it would never “literally” happen. I mean, I have my and friends, relatives, colleagues, and neighbors, so pretty much the fear of being alone is nearly impossible to take place at the moment.

However, as much as I want to stay confident with my connection with the people around me, things are different when it comes to family relationships. Juggling everything altogether seems a little complicated as family issues affect each member. And when there is an unresolved problem, usually, all ties break loose.


But the issue here is still not the family stress. Instead, it is the separation that haunts me. I know I can’t control things, and I know that uncertainties always catch me on guard, but separation from family members cannot be handled. Thus, everything goes back to the only fear that makes me mentally and emotionally unstable – being left alone.

I don’t entirely need to elaborate on the details of how my family ended up breaking each other’s trust, care, and love for one another. I am too focused on dealing with the aftermath of everything. Right now, there is a mental health struggle called separation anxiety that I need to overcome.

How do I know if I have separation anxiety?

Individuals who experience separation anxiety have heightened anxiety levels and occasionally even manic episodes, particularly when their loved ones are not in sight. Those with this type of illness may be aloof or present with severe sadness or trouble focusing when they are away from family and significant others.

What triggers separation anxiety?

Separation anxiety disorder frequently emerges after a loved one’s death or a major event like moving into other homes. You most probably will develop the disorder if you had this when you were a child.

How do you deal with separation anxiety?

To deal with separation anxiety, consider taking some action such as busying yourself with important and valuable things. YOu can also change your mindset and learn to be more positive. Acknowledge that your emotions may be heightened and that you may feel more negative than positive. You can journal your thoughts and activities daily. Remember that you don’t need to wait for reassurance from others.

What are the three known stages of separation anxiety?

The three stages of separation anxiety include protest, despair, and detachment. The first phase starts the following separation instantly and lasts weeks until the end. It presents through external indications of distress like tantrums, awaiting the return of the parent/s, and crying.

What is the best-recommended treatment for separation anxiety?

Separation anxiety is typically managed with psychotherapy, sometimes complemented with medication. Also called talk therapy, psychotherapy entails reaching out and working with a mental health professional to alleviate anxiety symptoms.

How long can separation anxiety last?

Separation anxiety disorder usually persists for two-three weeks but could emerge from infancy towards toddlerhood up until childhood.

At what age does separation anxiety begin?

Despite the fact that some infants show separation anxiety and object permanence as early as four to five months, most of them develop stronger separation anxiety at approximately nine months. What’s worse with the leave-taking is when your baby gets sick, tired, or hungry.

What is a separation anxiety disorder?

Separation anxiety disorder is made official when symptoms are severe for the developmental age and results in tremendous distress in everyday functioning. These symptoms include excessive and persistent concerns about awaiting or being apart from loved ones or home.


How do you manage bedtime separation anxiety?

Here are several steps on how to deal with bedtime separation anxiety:

  • Learn a regular calming ritual. This will be relatively easy for children.
  • Bid your kids goodnight or goodbye when you leave their room.
  • Reevaluate your day and night schedule. Often, kids don’t have age-appropriate schedules.

It’s totally fine to provide extra encouragement and support at bedtime, although you’ll need to be cautious about presenting new routines.

 Does co-sleeping cause separation anxiety?

Bed-sharing has been linked to an increased prevalence of mental health problems generally, but it was also associated with several disorders, including depression and anxiety. Additionally, some parents claim that co-sleeping causes children to become clingy. Still, they believe that when they have a safe and secure foundation and their emotional needs are met, and they eventually grow up healthy and secure.

At what ages is sleep regression?

Sleep regression can happen at just about any age, including 4, 6, 8, and 18 months, even until babies reach two years old. The 12-month sleep regression appears when she is almost one, although some start to regress when they are 10 or 11 months old.

Why is my kid afraid to sleep alone?

All children are scared of sleeping alone at one point in their lives. Most of them who have chronic and anxious sleep behaviors are afraid because a bad routine begins and persists. Conflicts at home, stress at work or school, a scary movie, worries about failing – all these can lead them to an anxious night and a persistent dependency on their parents.

What is sleep anxiety?

Sleep anxiety or phobia causes severe fear and anxiety around the idea of heading to bed. It is also called clinophobia, sleep dread or hypnophobia.

At what age should a kid sleep in his room?

The safest way to co-sleep with your child is to share a room. Your baby can sleep in your bedroom but in her bassinet or crib. Additionally, experts suggest sharing a room with your child until he is at least six months of age and perhaps until he is one.



There is nothing more exhausting and complicated in life than realizing your own mental health struggle. Stress, anxiety, depression, and all other mental condition exist because we are all drawn to perfection. We don’t entirely see the importance of “just living” because we always fear something.